Haha, this got 2 b sooo interesting to most of u. Interesting? haha, this was something my frend from germany listened so keenly that she even didn’t intrupt me wen I spoke of the whole story,hehe…

Instead of saying it as a fact abt India , I would like to recreate the speech I had with her with little additions  so u people reading this get a better idea of arranged wedding  that take place in our country….those who guys having reading my blog may have noticed that I use the internet by night round 10:30pm Indian time,means guys in europe is abt 4 ½ hours behind us…ok…its also night there…On such a night, I and my frend Mel started a casual talk of the week we had. It so happened we reached talking abt the bf/gf stuffs, how love works out their & other interesting things….she told me of the dates she had & how love works out for her & such great stuffs……In between these talk I said abt wat would happen in India before actually having a marriage…..she was soooo keen to know, I thought, haha, “this gonna b interesting…”  …..I closely retrace my talk with her 4 u guys…………

I told “ U know, in India, love & marragie is entirely different. Its almost like a global dating service. This is wat which happens more than in 80 cases of 100,hehe. Well, first of all, the bride groom family & the the brides family go out in search of people that suit their daughter/son. Stuffs include,haha,its funny,its religion first,their caste within religion, qualification ,family status & finally how their future son in law or daughter in law looks. Once the family is satisfied, then only the main players come in, the persons who gonna get married, hehe. So they show them a photo of the person they liked to their  son/daughter.I f its an ok from there, the real deal starts, hehe,. The head of the families call each other by phone & fix a date to see one another in detail.

 So on the date, the bride grooms family along with people in close relation with their son, say aunt or uncle or frends, who ever, goes to the brides house.ofcourse, along with the bride groom,hehe. They have a friendly chat and then comes the cute part of the picture. The bride comes with a tray carrying tea/coffee or something to drink.hehe. Now this is the time wen actually the boy & girl sees each other? Imagine that.  Two people who have never seen or talked come to see each other for the first time & interestingly & funnily, wen the whole family of both of dem sits around??? Isint it sweet in a weired way? Hehe. Well, the cup of tea is first handed to the boy by the girl, they glance a look each other with a smile & then girl offers tea to others of the boys family….finally, after the studious period, the dad or someone of the bride asks the boy, “do u wanna talk with my daughter, seriously, do u wanna,hehr”. Most take their chances to know how the girl feels abt them. They r allotted a time to talk to each other,thank god,this time privately…hehe. Once its an ok from both boy & girl, the next step, go with the wedding soon as possible.

This much takes place in every religion within india.Its sooooooo cute & weired. U gonna marry someone who u met just months before ur marriage,hehe. The most advantageous part of the whole set up is that u don’t have to worry u gonna get a bf/gf within ur nice age. Because, its all left to ur parents. They will search it out for u. No harms & pains.
 Most liking part of it is that wen something happens in between u two people who get married newely, there will b always ur parents to compromise u off.  U cant say u wont hear them because here in india, parents r given sooo soooo high positions in their family that they r taken care of whole their life by anyone or all of their children. No old age homes for dem. They stay with the family watsoever. If u think it’s a tradition to change, I say, wat will I do wen I am 60 & got no job. Should I adjust soooo much thinking,”hey I am old. I should adjust with whatever bank balance I have until I die off”………now that’s weired & cruel…..Most interestingly, divorce rate in india is lower than 17% . Now that’s a big thing…..” that  was my talk with her, ofcourse nearly, hehe

Now I have a qs for guys who was patiently reading this. Would u like to even try,just try this setup. Ofcourse after havingur tea  u could even say,”hey, I didn’t liked the boy/girl”, hehe. Ya, u could say dat. Would u even care to try??????? Leave comments , I will b happy to know….