Which one is better? Understanding or Giving up ?

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Until few month ago I had thought understanding is one of the most important thing for connection with other people....

Giving up someone is not easy to me.... Maybe most of all people think like that...

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But now.... I changed my mind a little...

I just know that giving up is easier that understanding...

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I need patient for understanding someone who bothers me and after understanding I expect that the person will be changed...

But as old people said, people could not be changed easily....

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So I will give her up and never expect her anything again....

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